One morning recently at an Emporia elementary school, a little girl feasts on some graham crackers and milk. But it’s not snack time and she’s not in her classroom with the other students.
She’s in the office of a trusted person, her school’s student support specialist, or counselor. The second-grader got to school late, with no breakfast, and she was hungry. Over some graham crackers and milk, an attempt to fill the little girl’s belly until lunch time, she tells the counselor about her family.
She has four siblings and her single-mother is expecting number six. Her mother doesn’t get home from work until after 8 p.m., too late to make a decent dinner. Instead, her big brother, a sixth-grader, is in charge of feeding his little brothers and sisters. Usually it is dry cereal, but if she’s lucky, there’s milk in the house to pour on top.
That’s why she’s hungry. That’s why she can’t concentrate on her school work. That’s why she needs help.
HUNGRY STUDENTS
Unfortunately, this little girl isn’t the only student in Emporia coming to school hungry.
As Emporia schools join state and national initiatives to combat childhood obesity by teaching students how to make healthier food choices, there’s another problem that’s equally frightening for many Emporia kids: hunger.
Something that is often only seen in infomercials, picturing starving children in other parts of the world, there are boys and girls right here in Emporia who are desperate to fill their tummies with something to eat.
“People don’t know,” said Carla Fessler, student support specialist at Logan Avenue Elementary School. “Emporia does a really good job covering up the poverty in this town.”
But Emporia’s student support specialists certainly do know, because they see it every day: Children who are coming to school famished, asking teachers or other school staff for something to eat.
“Or, they say their last meal was yesterday at school,” Fessler said. “They’re licking their plates clean [at lunch] and then asking for more.”
Other signs school staff look for include irritability, inability to concentrate in the classroom, asking for seconds or thirds at lunch or a simple request for something to eat in the middle of the day.
It’s more prevalent than ever before, Fessler said. “We need to open the community’s eyes that we have a lot of people in need here.”
There’s something that makes this community need unique that most people don’t consider, said Hope Burris, Captain of the Salvation Army.
“These children can’t just get in a car and drive over here to get food,” she said. “They are totally reliant upon the person who takes care of them.”
For a wide variety of reasons, an estimated 25 students a month in the Emporia school district are going home to homes where food is scarce. That may not seem like a lot, but for a town in the middle of the bread basket of the country, that’s 25 too many, Burris said.
When a student comes to school hungry, the effects are wide-ranging. From behavior to academic performance to testing, it’s impossible for them to meet the expectations that are required of them.
“AYP? That’s the least of their worries,” said Fessler, referring to annual yearly progress reports that students are constantly tested on throughout the year.
“Nutrition is so important to get these kids to make it through the day. Our job is to teach them and educate them, but I think one of the biggest parts of being an educator is to make sure they are safe and healthy,” she said.
Emporia still hasn’t recovered from the Tyson lay offs of 2007, when the Emporia school district reached a record number of students on free or reduced meal plans, according to Interim-Superintendent Theresa Davidson.
The numbers are still rising.
Currently, two-thirds of Emporia’s students — that’s more than 3,000 — are on free and reduced lunches, the highest number ever, said Nancy Horst, director of community relations for the Emporia School District.
Comparatively, that’s even more severe than the state’s overall statistics on food insecurity. For a state that is one of the most agriculturally-rich in the nation, almost half of Kansas’ schoolchildren participate in free or reduced school meal plans.
Kansas ranks 12th in the nation for the number of homes with unstable food supplies. According to past-Gov. Mark Parkinson, who, during his tenure as governor made permanent a Food Insecurity Task Force, one in seven Kansas families worry about putting food on the table.
As food insecurity statistics are changing so are the families they represent. As the economy worsens, it’s not just the homeless or jobless families who need help, said Burris, who has seen a 75 percent increase (since July 2010) in families relying on her agency for food assistance.
“A lot of the families are at the $10-$12 an hour pay rate,” she said. “And that dollar isn’t making it far enough.”
Many are single-parent homes with four or more children trying to make it to the end of the month with a meager pay check and food stamps.
These “latch-key” kids, as Fessler refers to many students as young as first grade, are left to fend for themselves in the evenings and on the weekends while their parent(s) work.
And then there are migrant families who move a lot. When they get to town they need help getting adjusted, Fessler said.
A parent losing a job is also a common catalyst for putting a family in a desperate situation.
“They just can’t keep up with everything,” she said.
FILLING THE GAP
In the past couple years Emporia schools have attempted to meet the needs of these hungry students by periodically providing bags of food from the Kansas Food Bank. But because of the many restrictions that came with the program, the schools decided to give it up at the end of the 2009-2010 school year.
But the need for assistance didn’t go away.
In the meantime, The Emporia Gazette has partnered with the Emporia School District, The Salvation Army, some local churches and concerned Emporians, to fill this gap by providing a bag full of nutritious, non-perishable, light-weight food items that can be discreetly placed inside a student’s backpack on Friday afternoons.
It’s called Food for Students and since November they’ve been working to raise funds, shop, pack and deliver approximately 80 bags a month to Emporia’s elementary schools, including Lowther North and South Intermediate Schools.
“It’s just something we can do,” said The Emporia Gazette Editor and Publisher, Chris Walker. “We want to help some parents out there who may be struggling right now to make ends meet by giving them an extra boost.”
Currently in town, there is a need for the distribution of approximately 80 bags a month through the schools.
Student support specialists have been identifying students that could benefit from the bags and contacting families, trying to be sensitive in the way they approach each case.
“This is not a hand-out,” said Tabitha Peterson, student support specialist at William Allen White Elementary School. “And it’s not about bad parenting.”
Davidson agrees.
“We aren’t trying to take over the parents’ responsibilities,” she said. “But if we can help provide some of the basics, if we can fill in during that time...”
The Food for Students group hopes the community will take ownership in this initiative and get their church, service organization, business or family involved.
“From donating food to packing and delivering the bags, this is a great opportunity to reach out and help some of Emporia’s neediest children,” Walker said.
“Its an easy way to make a positive difference in our community.”
HOW TO HELP
Food donation: Donate the following non-perishable, easy-to-prepare, light-weight, food items to discreetly go into a student’s backpack. Food donations may be dropped off at The Emporia Gazette,517 Merchant St; The Salvation Army, 327 Constitution St.; and 12th Avenue Baptist Church, 2023 W. 12th Ave. To partner with Food for Students as a drop-off location, please contact Chris Walker at 342-4800.
Tax-deductible donations: Make a tax-deductible cash donation to cover the approximate $10 cost per bag. They may be sent to “Food for Students” at The Emporia School Foundation, 1700 W. Seventh Ave. One hundred percent of the donations are spent on the Food for Students “To-Go” bags.
Packing bags: Schedule your family, your organization, your business, or yourself to join us in packing up food bags at The Emporia Gazette at the end of each month. Call 342-4800 to make arrangements.
Delivering bags: Schedule your family, organization, your business, or yourself to join us in delivering food bags to the elementary schools at the end of each month. Call 342-4800 to make arrangements.
For more information please call Chris Walker at 342-4800.
tosie (anonymous) says...
I feel sorry for these children - but I also wish the parents that can't afford to have 6 kids would stop having kids! (go ahead and be upset for that comment, but if you can't afford kids then don't keep having them!) You are only depriving your kids and/or yourselves of basic needs, like food, nutrition, education, health care, etc. I'm tired of hearing about it - I want to help the kids, but I'm tired of these parents wanting a hand out and then they just keep on having kids. Birth control would be MUCH cheaper, so use it people!
January 26, 2011 at 11:58 a.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
TexasGirl (anonymous) says...
Tosie, you nailed it right on the head. That was the first thought in my mind too -- the real question here is, why is Mom about to pop out child #6 when she can't even raise or feed the ones she has????
Once again, as happens all too often, society expects a handout instead of taking personal responsibility for their own actions.
January 26, 2011 at 12:07 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
karmadog (anonymous) says...
Excellent article, Ashley. All of our inequalities, including hungry kids, achievement gaps, and "AYP" challenges begin with the growing poverty gap in our community, region, state, and country. Your efforts to send home, even small amounts of food, should be commended. I hope those who can will fill up the Gazette offices each week with an abundance of food.
January 26, 2011 at 12:30 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
imarun_r2 (anonymous) says...
This is very sad but I 100% agree with tosie. You can only feel so bad for people when they keep on having children (and probably smoking cigarettes) Its very sad that these children have to suffer because of the stupidity of their parents.
January 26, 2011 at 12:36 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
ToxicPink (anonymous) says...
Well and you can agree with her, I do as well, but we also can't punish the children. Its a sad thing that we have to step up and help, but we should step up and help.
I think if a mother is about to have her sixth child she cannot take care of, social services need to step in. And I'm not saying take away her children at all, but she needs to be in touch with the community health center and discuss birth control options, she needs to be in touch with agencies to get assistance. Her resources obviously need to be extended because she has 6 children who did not ask to be brought into this world that need taken care of.
Same goes to all these families who cannot afford to feed their kids.
Seek help.
January 26, 2011 at 12:51 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
eaglefan (anonymous) says...
I also feel bad for the children. However, it is the parents who are irresponsible. Birth control is available at the health dept. for no cost or at least a very low cost. USE THIS SERVICE, PEOPLE. We have to STOP rewarding bad behavior with monetary handouts and having child after child is bad behavior when you can't afford it. I am a working taxpaying citizen and we stopped at 2 children because we couldn't afford more. We worked hard, saved our money, raised our children and put both through college with no help from state agencies
January 26, 2011 at 12:51 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
doubt_it (anonymous) says...
I do feel this is a very good article and it saddens me to know that children are going hungry. Yes, children learn better when they aren't worried about when or if they will get something to eat. There are many places where people can get assistance if needed. I feel this is a worthwhile program for the CHILDREN, not the parents. Back when the schools were providing the food from the Kansas Food Bank, I personally know of a family of 2 adults and 3 grade school children that the food was being given to (each child, not just the one family). It was all stockpiled in their kitchen cabinets (crackers, peanut butter, vienna sausages, etc) and not being used as it wasn't a name brand food item. The 2 adults wore fashionable clothing, both smoked cigarettes, alcohol of some form was always in the house, and they had the latest cell phones. Plus they received over $500 per month in food stamps, but yet these kids went hungry because the adults simply didn't want to bother with fixing a meal (not even a sandwich). Punishment was going to bed without supper. I am all for helping out when I can, but people also need to help themselves and not squander what little pay they have on luxuries instead of needs. Brand new vehicles in the driveway, booming sound system in the vehicle, fancy designer clothes and fancy cell phones aren't a necessity.
January 26, 2011 at 1:23 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
pizza (anonymous) says...
I think another thing that is going to make the food problem worse is the government policies of using food for fuel. This is driving up the prices of corn and soybeans to prices more than double that of just a few years ago. Yes, this is more than a community problem but the fact is that it is driving food prices through the roof and that will affect more and more people just on the edge of making it financially. These bio fuels made with food grains are driving up the price of all kinds of foods to put many products out of reach of less fortunate consumers. And this can and will affect people with fewer than 6 children. It is too bad this woman didn't learn about birth control a long time ago. Her kids are suffering because of her lack of responsibility.
January 26, 2011 at 1:36 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
sosinc (anonymous) says...
Perhaps before we suggest that anyone with a large family learn about birth control we should take time to consider alternate reasons for someone not being able to provide the basics for a family of any size. Perhaps when someone decided that 6 children was a good number for their family both persons were employed, or one person was employed, or there were no astronomical medical bills, or both parents were still living. No one knows the circumstances of why someone may not be able to afford to feed their family, so before judging someone irresponsible for having children, might we consider that there may be more to the story than meets the eye?
In a community where we come together so cohesively when there is a tragedy to help others financially, might we ask, why does there have to be a tragedy to help? The fact is that no matter why someone can't afford to feed their children, it is not a child's fault and there is something we can do. I encourage everyone to do what you can, whether it is $1 or helping pack the bags.
January 26, 2011 at 2:13 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
HenryVIII (anonymous) says...
Why doesn't Jesus feed the kids? Does he like to watch them suffer or is he just powerless to do anything about it?
Now we have a governor who thinks god (faith) will fix our state...yeah, good luck with that. Just like we must take in upon ourselves to help these kids, we need to fix our state's troubles ourselves. Not with the magic genie in a bottle approach. Nobody has ever seen the genie, yet our governor still thinks he exists...sad.
'enry
January 26, 2011 at 2:24 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
castaway (anonymous) says...
Excellent article Ashley!
January 26, 2011 at 2:31 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
dale011 (anonymous) says...
Tosie one issue comes up with folks that have lots of kids - religion. Catholics consider birth control a bad thing. I'd wager a lot of the poor children in Emporia are from catholic families. I grew up poor and hungry because my father was disabled pretty much all my life and we didn't have welfare to fall back on. I recall getting subsidized lunches for the first time when I was in high school and to be honest most of the time that lunch was the only meal I ate for the day. I didn't care about the embarrasment of having to sign the meals sheet instead of having a lunch ticket like the other kids, I needed to be fed. Lets just focus on helping these kids, not on why they are hungry.
January 26, 2011 at 3:26 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
lowereastside (anonymous) says...
Excellent program. It's too bad the city didn't donate some "rock" money towards actually making this city a better place for all people, children included, that live here. Instead of attempting to make a fictitous impression of Emporia with some "rocks" to people that are just passing thru.
January 26, 2011 at 3:44 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
HenryVIII (anonymous) says...
dale011,
You're right. Silly Catholics. lol! Where do they come up with such crazy rules?
Don't even get me started on the Quiverfull Christians...yikes.
'enry
January 26, 2011 at 3:54 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
hogan77 (anonymous) says...
sosinc... You have a point, however, did you read the article at all? A single mother with her 6th child on the way... sounds to me like someone lacks common sense and a sense of responsibility. Where is/are the father(s) for these children? Is he helping out? If not, he should be.
As far as the topic at hand, I do understand the necessity of children having food to eat. It is not their fault that funds are low, that the government can't or won't help, that mom and/or dad cannot find a job. I think if you looked deeper into this, you would find a lot more cases than what is being spoken of. I believe when you have a city government that doesn't care enough about their people, this is what you get, and the children suffer from their ignorance and spending. I sure do hope that Emporians will find it in their hearts to step up and lend a hand.
Here's a thought. Why not take a little bit of that ROCK money, and give some to the schools to help feed these kids?
January 26, 2011 at 3:56 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
tosie (anonymous) says...
dale - I feel for you and I am truly sorry about your situation - I have helped and do want to help others in need, just like in your situation. There are instances (especially now with the economy, job loss, etc) when people fall on hard times and need assistance, which I totally understand. I do also realize about the Catholic religion and their views on birth control - but I also believe that religion should not give people an excuse to be irresponsible. It is just my opinion, but I think people that have several kids and knowingly cannot pay for them and rely on the system are irresponsible. They made a irresponsible choice and now their children are paying for it and I feel awful for those children. I'm not trying to sound unkind, but there are a lot of people that abuse the system and they are the ones that upset me.
January 26, 2011 at 3:56 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
yev_kassem (anonymous) says...
Good article in the sense that it brings attention to a major need.
It is sad when people don't take responsibility of their actions. Having 6 kids is irresponsible if you can not provide for them. People need to prioritize their wants and needs and feeding your children should be number one on the list. Unfortunately, some don't and that is where we as a society need to step up and lend a hand to the kids.
I really just wish there was a way to monitor who gets what and why they need it.
I am all for feeding hungry kids, but I am not all for sending those kids back to their families if the parents are not capable of being parents. People who are choosing to drive around in nice vehicles and have fancy cellphones and are using the generosity of others instead of choosing to feed their kids are some of the lowest of the low.
January 26, 2011 at 3:57 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
sail (anonymous) says...
66% of Emporias children on free or reduced lunch, my god how have we fallen so far, so fast.This is enough reason alone to change our current direction at the rda and chamber, get a reality check here people 66%.We live in a community about ready to self destruct if we dont make changes that matter in regards to creating wealth for our citizens.Its our current and past leaders who have led us down this path of poverty,and we citizens allowed it.
January 26, 2011 at 3:57 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
yev_kassem (anonymous) says...
dale---
I am sorry but that is a bunch of crap using religion as a scapegoat for irresponsible behavior. If someone is so poor that they can not feed the kids they have and their religion tells them they can't use birth control then I have a suggestion for them... QUIT HAVING SEX!!!
January 26, 2011 at 4:01 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
armybrat (anonymous) says...
All of these children certainly qualify for free lunch and the schools also have free breakfast if one qualifies. I personally know of a family of five and their food stamps are 700 per month plus they do qualify for free bfast and lunch. These kids should not be hungry for lack of food, but adult responsibility.
January 26, 2011 at 4:03 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
AverageCitizen2 (anonymous) says...
How did a mother of 5 find the time to have sex and make the 6th that is on the way?
January 26, 2011 at 4:10 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
rami (anonymous) says...
I grew up in a household where there was never any food and I went to school hungry on many occasions. It's a sad situation. I fully agree that anyone who is having such a hard time raising 5 children should have done something to prevent getting pregnant for a 6th time. When I had 2 children, I had my moments of struggling to get by. After the birth of my 3rd child I had a tubal litigation because I knew how irresponsible it would be for me to have another child.
I am going to make a donation because I hate to think of these children suffering. It breaks my heart.
January 26, 2011 at 4:15 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
Steve_Corbin (anonymous) says...
this was on a face book post yesterday.
IF YOU CAN'T FEED EM, DON'T BREED EM.
Jump on me all you want but, this mother of soon to be six kids is lacking all responsibility of an adult human being. Take her kids from her please? There is no religion in the world that I know of that prohibits abstinence as a form of birth control.
Feel sorry for the kids, really do.
The mother however is another story.
January 26, 2011 at 4:18 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
TexasGirl (anonymous) says...
yev-kassem, you are right, even with conventional means of birth control off the table, it is still possible to be responsible. The Catholic church allows the rhythm method of family planning as well as sterilization.
Also, many do use their "religion" as an excuse to avoid responsibility, when truly they do not even faithfully practice that religion. I don't have any hard figures to support this, but in my experience with people I've known, those who are truly devout in their faith, whatever it is, are usually gainfully employed and have their priorities straight when it comes to caring for their families, because they truly "practice what they preach."
January 26, 2011 at 4:19 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
armybrat (anonymous) says...
Yes it insults my intelligence that Davidson says we are not trying to take over parents responibilites. Well if they were responsible, children would not go hungry because the resources are there.
January 26, 2011 at 4:26 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
Steve_Corbin (anonymous) says...
Ashley,
What charity are we all backing this month?
we have:
The United Way (still)
Hungry Kids
Polar plunge for Special Olympics
The old rest Home place that cooks meals for seniors.
Coming soon a fund raiser for something from the ST, Pats parade committee.
i know i am leaving someone out, but anyway.
The people of Emporia have stepped up time after time with fundraisers and charity events to give their time and money for those less fortunate.
THAT IS WHAT MAKES EMPORIA A GREAT TOWN TO LIVE IN, IT'S PEOPLE !
But it is getting overwhelming, the "Please sir, can I have some more"
and some wonder why rocks started such a brew-ha-ha, sigh
January 26, 2011 at 4:33 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
dj2879 (anonymous) says...
I also feel bad for the kids, as they did not ask for this situation. However, it is reasons like this that mandatory sterilization needs to become a reality.
If parents are too busy working &/or getting themselves knocked up (or doing the knocking) to be home to feed their children, then they are definitely too busy to make sure their children know the necessity of keeping their legs closed and wrapping it up later in life. And so the cycle continues. The school systems alone are not responsible for teaching kids personal responsibility, come on parents, get on the ball! And this goes for parents of college-aged kids too, cut the cord already!
January 26, 2011 at 4:37 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
Steve_Corbin (anonymous) says...
I saw a sign on the turnpike going to Topeka, (doctors appointment before you jump).
It said ;
MILLIONS WAIT TO ADOPT !
Please someone get those kids out of that environment and to someone who will take care of them.
January 26, 2011 at 4:37 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
TexasGirl (anonymous) says...
Thank you Steve. I have personally dealt with the inability to have children, so that's why this issue really riles me up. So many children in need, and so many potentially great parents who can't have kids.
We need to figure out a better way to reconcile this. Adoption is a wonderful thing, but costs several thousands of dollars; as a potential parent, I do not think it would be very responsible of me to enter parenthood in debt up to my eyeballs.
January 26, 2011 at 4:48 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
nks (anonymous) says...
I am truly sorry for these children, and every situation is different, but on many occasions I saw children walking into school with no coats, getting free lunches and seeing their parents sit in their idling SUV's with their $3000 tires and rims.
These are the situations that are causing the uproar. Most people have good hearts and dont want to see these children suffer like this, but are their parents doing all they can to prevent this issue? Single mother of 6????
January 26, 2011 at 4:50 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
create (anonymous) says...
Sorry, but I'd much rather help that mother than separate those children from their mother. What a terrible tragedy that would be.
Yes, she is irresponsible, and she needs birth control and counseling. After 6, even a tubal ligation, but unless those children are being mistreated, they must remain at home.
This is a perfect time for SRS to take a stand and intervene with several visits designed to protect the children in their environment and to educate the mother in a firm way.
Great article, Ashley. But to prevent waste, and to assure good choices of groceries, please publish examples of "non-perishable, easy-to-prepare, light-weight, food items" or else you're gonna have thousands of crackers and peanut butter.
January 26, 2011 at 4:53 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
newtoemporia (anonymous) says...
Shame on everyone. We don't know this mother. Yet, people are speaking ill words against her. Perhaps, she recently divorced her husband. And, without the dual income, she is trying to raise 5 and, one on the way by herself. For heaven's sake, she's pregnant and working until after 8p. Give her some credit. Perhaps, she had a better job but lost it due to the economy. We don't know. But, there are 5 children who are hungry.
doubt_it: "I personally know of a family of 2 adults and 3 grade school children that the food was being given to (each child, not just the one family). It was all stockpiled in their kitchen cabinets (crackers, peanut butter, vienna sausages, etc) and not being used as it wasn't a name brand food item. The 2 adults wore fashionable clothing, both smoked cigarettes, alcohol of some form was always in the house, and they had the latest cell phones. Plus they received over $500 per month in food stamps, but yet these kids went hungry because the adults simply didn't want to bother with fixing a meal (not even a sandwich). Punishment was going to bed without supper."
If you personally know that family and haven't reported them for neglect, then do so. It's the law. Here's the number: Kansas Child Protective Services
Toll-Free: (800) 922-5330
or call 9-1-1
sail: "66% of Emporias children on free or reduced lunch, my god how have we fallen so far, so fast.This is enough reason alone to change our current direction at the rda and chamber, get a reality check here people 66%.We live in a community about ready to self destruct if we dont make changes that matter in regards to creating wealth for our citizens.Its our current and past leaders who have led us down this path of poverty,and we citizens allowed it."
Well put. I couldn't agree more.
January 26, 2011 at 5:04 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
yev_kassem (anonymous) says...
create--
Is not being fed, not mistreatment??
Yes, there is a possibility she might be just going through a rough time but if a kid is coming to school authorities asking for food because she hasn't eaten, it is time someone stepped up and did something about it. Screw worrying about embarassing the parents, the kids needs help!
January 26, 2011 at 5:08 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
mok (anonymous) says...
I was just wondering, with all the eating spots in town ,what happens with all the food left over at the end of the night?Does it get donated ,thrown out ,I cant help but think there could be a option there for some organization to get behind this and maybe help distribute some of food that might just be thrown out.
January 26, 2011 at 5:23 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
booker5m (anonymous) says...
Mok good idea but sometimes they run into health issuses. If anyone should get sick lawsuit city
January 26, 2011 at 5:27 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
mok (anonymous) says...
Thats true booker,sign of the times I guess,help someone-get sued,meanwhile kids suffer.
January 26, 2011 at 5:36 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
hard_at_work (anonymous) says...
I do not disagree with the fact that this mother should have been on some method of birth control so as not to have this 6th child, when she is already having difficulties providing for the other 5 children. However, being a single mother, (and a former Army soldier), I have 2 small children. I have been divorced from the father for quite some time now. I work evenings, so my children go to daycare until I get off and they are fed at daycare. I have looked into all the “resources” out there, but I just barely make too much. It quite frankly upsets me that I can barely make ends meet and my children are surely hungry at times, as I know I am, but I can’t even get daycare assistance so I can even afford to go to work! And if I even got that, the money I am shelling out for daycare would provide food and clothing and personal hygiene items instead! However, a lot of the “resources” are very hard to get for a single working mother… in my case, because I have a divorce decree stating how much I am “supposed” to get in child support, this “income” is counted in with my wages, though I don’t typically see this said “child support.” I have tried to talk to authorities about this and why it is counted in my income when I don’t get it, and how if he doesn’t have a job, you can’t get child support out of him and throwing him in jail isn’t going to do much good either, as far as getting a job on his end is concerned! I just get frustrated that everyone says there are “resources” out there, but their methods of computing a household’s income/”benefits” is a little unjust in my opinion. I go to work every day, I am not out at the bars, I don’t do drugs, I don’t abuse my children, I teach them morals and respect for others, watch every penny I earn and can’t get any assistance from all these said “resources!” It’s not about me being irresponsible or wanting the system to pay my or my children’s way, as I do everything I can possibly do for my children before I ever do for myself, but I struggle… HARD… and with the struggles, my children miss out on just having the basics- including food!
January 26, 2011 at 6:07 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
booker5m (anonymous) says...
hard at work the system is a booger! Common sense is never used with the goverment. Do hope it works out for you
January 26, 2011 at 6:30 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
horsequeen (anonymous) says...
GOD does not make mistakes.. The bible says God knew us before we were even born!!!!
January 26, 2011 at 6:32 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
doubt_it (anonymous) says...
@ newtoemporia ---- i did call SRS and the Kansas Child Protective Services. I was told that since they have a high volume of clients, and the children were not being abused (because they had food), they would look into it as soon as possible. I did not just sit idly by and let this go. I also notified Walnut School of the situation and there response was that because the kids were getting free breakfasts & lunches, they knew the kids needed extra food at home.
Too bad most of it went to waste. I am sure there were plenty of other kids that could have and would have used that food.
January 26, 2011 at 6:36 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
armybrat (anonymous) says...
Hard at Work, I believe this article should more been addresssed to a family as yours. I dont think that necessarily applies to the example in question. I would have thought that as a journalistic family Ashley Walker would have had more on the ball. To make a 6th grade child responsible for feeding 3 siblings only leads to either feeding them crap or overpriced single packaged item foods. My family of 3 ate spaghetti, red sauce and garlic bread last night to the tune of $4, and still had some left.
January 26, 2011 at 7:56 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
newtoemporia (anonymous) says...
doubt_it: I'm glad you took the steps to attempt to protect the children. But, it seems the system failed.
My mom was a social worker and it was her job to respond to cases of abuse and neglect. Then, she was required to report her findings to the court with recommendations. During one investigation, she was held at gun point by a parent. After one court hearing, a parent broke into her car and hid in the backseat. An officer escorted her to her car (because the case was so emotional) and found the parent with a knife waiting to kill my mom. At that time, she was early into her pregnancy with me and quit her job. Social workers have huge case loads and the turn over rate is high.
Even with that being said, the school should take steps to protect the children. Without knowing the entire situation, I would venture a guess that food wasn't the only neglect. But, to withholding food, as a punishment, goes beyond neglect and crosses the line into abuse. (Creating a situation of fear based upon withholding food as punishment ... using an erratic and threatening style of punishment ... ignoring the child ... that's abuse) And, it's a Class B Misdemeanor if a teacher, school administrator or employees of a school suspect child abuse and or neglect and fails to make a report. I'm certain someone at Walnut School also reported to SRS.
If the situation is still ongoing, it might be beneficial to contact SRS and continue contacting SRS until an investigation is open.
January 26, 2011 at 7:59 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
heloves (anonymous) says...
Don't blame God. He gave us the instructions for a peaceful life. We're the ones who get foolish. We've forgotten to be content with food, clothing and shelter. We forget to treat others as we would like to be treated. We forget to put others needs above our wants. We focus on the exterior(Topeka put up some "neat".signs. I think most visitors would rather not have their vehicles destroyed by potholes. But hey, money only goes so far. We've become shallow. But if the Lord gives us tomorrows and we are willing to learn there can be improvement. Accountability for the common good is fading. We'd rather destroy many than hurt the feelings of one. We rail against a "nanny state" but aren't mature enough to discipline ourselves. We can't have the true freedom without the responsibility.
January 26, 2011 at 9:30 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
create (anonymous) says...
yev_kassem,
You're right, withholding food is indeed mistreatment. I was concerned that the child would be so traumatized, but yes, you are right. Feed the children first.
heloves,
Lots of words there. I hope you take the time to write a check too. Make it out to Food for Students.
Mail to:
Emporia School Foundation
1700 West Seventh Ave.
Emporia, KS 66801
January 26, 2011 at 9:50 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
methusla (anonymous) says...
Oh, I would just love to say something about this situation, but what I have to say will more than likely, really make some of the leaders of Emporia very angry, so for the sake of peace, I will not say anything, about needless, city spending, tax burdens, extravagant City purchases, lack of good paying jobs or unnecessary City/County/State/EBOE or Country spending in this depressed economic climate, or any of that !!!
I will simply say that some situations are of our or our leaders own making and sometimes the children as well as grownups are the ones who suffer the most from it !!!
January 26, 2011 at 10:33 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
romano1784 (anonymous) says...
You people need to stop. you are focusing on one point of this article. My wife and i had one child. We discussed this and with the way we feel the economy is headed we decided that it was the best to stop there. Even with one kid and both of us working times are rough. Yet i can still manage to open my doors and take in friends that have fallen on hard times. Whether they are working or not, we help them. Thats who we are. Sorry but i dont make donations anymore. I absolutely refuse. The few times where we were really hard up, and needed help, we were in danger of losing our house, not having food, no heat, no electric or water, ect. we were told that we made too much money to apply for help.
Sorry, i feel for the kids, but i stand by something i said months ago, "Get the illegals out of the country and make decent jobs available for legal citizens." There are jobs out there if government would do its job and quit worring about votes. The united way provides monetary funds and food for people overseas, WHY? This article is a perfect example of why we need to quit worrying about other countries issues, and start focusing on the real problem. How do you fix America, if the American government doesnt give a damn outside its own selfish issues?
January 26, 2011 at 10:41 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
b3bill (anonymous) says...
Ashley Walker wrote "The second-grader got to school late, with no breakfast, and she was hungry...Her mother doesn’t get home from work until after 8 p.m., too late to make a decent dinner. Instead, her big brother, a sixth-grader, is in charge of feeding his little brothers and sisters. Usually it is dry cereal, but if she’s lucky, there’s milk in the house to pour on top.
That’s why she’s hungry. That’s why she can’t concentrate on her school work. That’s why she needs help."
What a terrible situation this little girl and her siblings are in. It's pitiful that she or any of them are ever going hungry.
However, I call BS on the rest of the situation.
Just how many hours a day does her mother work?? I bet she wasn't at work when the little girl was getting ready for school, yet she came to school late and with no breakfast. I bet the mother had something for her own breakfast if she wanted it. No excuse for not feeding this little girl some breakfast at home!
Not home from work in time to fix dinner?? Then fix it earlier and leave it in the frig!!! I bet the mother had something for her own dinner if she wanted it.
If the little girl is lucky, there is milk in the house to put on her dry cereal for dinner?? I don't believe this mother is financially incapable of buying enough milk to keep in the frig for her kids to have each day. She is employed and has wages from her job!! Plus, I'd bet she is likely receiving some other assistance too.
The little girl needs help?? You bet she does. Absolutely no reason for her to be going hungry. But you know who really needs the help? HER MOTHER!!!
This woman obviously does not have her priorities straight. Anyone who is employed and wants to feed their children CAN DO SO!!
Besides getting the kids fed, the real urgency here is to get the right authorities working with this mother. She is not providing proper care for her children if they are going hungry, especially when she is employed. Until she changes her ways and provides for the kids as she should, then you can expect this unnecessary problem to continue, especially if someone else is feeding her kids.
This woman may lack cooking skills, efficient shopping skills, etc. If so, she needs to be taught them. I would guess she has no idea how to figure what quantity of food is the best buy for the money. She needs that basic math skill to do a better job of providing for her kids. I also doubt her other spending priorities are inline with the best interest of her children.
What a sorry set of reasons for a child to be going hungry.
January 26, 2011 at 10:52 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
REWBA (anonymous) says...
Actions have consequences. Do the right thing and reap the rewards, do the wrong thing and suffer. Oh wait! This is the United States where Octomom's become famous. Can't trick a man? Have kids with autonomous donations in a clinical setting. Why not? You got a medical card. Your kids will get one too. Housing assistance, food stamps, WIC vouchers, free breakfasts, lunches and day care. Vocational training too! Where are the biological fathers of these children? It's time to round them up, give them paternity tests and put them to work on the aesthetics at our entry ports. A town that enforces parental responsibilities would be an attractive town indeed. Who needs stones? We could have deadbeat parents wearing orange vests raking and weeding this beautiful city from one side to the next. Make them get the weeds out of the curbs and walkways too. That looks just awful.
January 26, 2011 at 10:57 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
fourstars (anonymous) says...
new to emporia,
all the negativity & complaints, testimonials, griping, accusations here...I apologize. Not all of us are like that. I will happily send a donation & not pass judgement or jump to conclusions that hungry kids parents deserve our disregard & disdain. Open hearts & open minds is what I wish for those who feel the need to deal w/ this hunger kid issue in a suspicious manner. It worries me as more people may become hungry or sick due to the economy & those of us w/ a little extra may be asked for assistance for our neighbors who struggle.
January 27, 2011 at 12:38 a.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
michanic (anonymous) says...
I read everyone's comments some good some well bad. As for my opinion. I have had family in the same position as this lady and well my sister had 4 kids with two divorce's. She did get childs support if not from her ex from SRS. She also lived in my home for 6 months. We knew what she had for funds so to speak. She got about 600.00 in food stamps that she started spending on cookies, chips, pop, juice boxes just crap. In the first 2 weeks she had spent all her food stamp help and well you know what happened then we took oversupport her family After the first month my wife decided (as you would say help her shop) Did you know you can feed nine people her and for kids and my wife and I and 2 kids very very well for 600.00 a month that was what we charged her for rent when she stayed and it worked out great. my point is a loaf of bread and lunch meat even cheap is 2 dollars a day so 14 dollars a week even if you mixed it up is enough to keep a child fed. not saying live on sandwiches but a full belly is well full So do I sympathize with the kids yes feel for her no. So you all understand thats during the school months to when her kids get reduced or free meals.So thats 30 meals at night for 600.00 and ok add breakfast to were's all the monies going.And to the guy talking about grains for fuel where that came from anyway who knows? Gas prices is the poison that killed this country I love so much. High gas,fuels has the trickle affect. They pay more to make it we pay more to buy it. The companies that can't afford to pay well you know what happens no company no jobs. So bring on the alternate fuels and put those fat cat oil refinerys out to dry. Thats just my opinion
January 27, 2011 at 2:14 a.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
Ubet (anonymous) says...
Henry, I believe Jesus is fixing this problem. He has sent these loving people who are supporting packing and distributing this food.
January 27, 2011 at 8:16 a.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
HenryVIII (anonymous) says...
Ubet,
Oh, I forgot..."god works in mysterious ways", right? With logic that sound, one could argue that god also sends murderers, rapists, and terrorists.
How do you know god didn't send me to tell you not to go to church? Seriously, he said he thought it was dumb for people to waste their Sunday's sitting in church. God sent me to tell you this, so it must be true. Stop wasting time and money in church! He also said the Bible is fictitious and that none of the organized religions got it right. Our path to answers lies in science and philosophy; not religion. Prove that he didn't tell me to say this or at least prove that he sent people to distribute the food.
'enry
January 27, 2011 at 8:52 a.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
lowereastside (anonymous) says...
Shame on you HenryVIII !
January 27, 2011 at 9:43 a.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
genxer (anonymous) says...
Hardatwork,
I wish there was some way to get in contact without either of us giving up our anonymity. I would like to help. If there is a way you can think of please let me know. Unfortunately the board feature of contacting you does not work on these message boards.
January 27, 2011 at 9:47 a.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
create (anonymous) says...
genxer,
Write a check. Make it out to Food for Students.
Mail to:
Emporia School Foundation
1700 West Seventh Ave.
Emporia, KS 66801
Easy.
January 27, 2011 at 9:56 a.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
genxer (anonymous) says...
create,
This is typical of you DemoRats. You already support a government that robs me of my hard earned money to give to every little pet project and now you want to tell me how to spend what is left over? Get out of my face.
Hardatwork,
I do have the means to help you and I was being genuine with the offer. You seem like a responsible person who is hard working and also a former service member. I'll put some thought into it and post back here if I come up with any ideas.
January 27, 2011 at 10:15 a.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
newtoemporia (anonymous) says...
fourstars
Thank you. Although I've only been in Emporia for a short time, the citizens are welcoming and friendly. This is a passionate topic and, the thought of children going hungry is enough to make anyone upset. However, we don't know the mother or the circumstances that have led up to her current situation. Good questions have been raised. I agree with many comments that some parents could benefit from nutrition classes, parenting classes, and classes that teach fiscal responsibility.
However, the cycle of poverty is one that is hard to break. We have multiple generations that have grown up on federal and state assistance. We have parents who are evicted every other month. During a 10 month school year, those children could possibly attend 4 to 5 different schools. Their only consistent role model are their parents. You have young ladies (11, 12, 13) who seek someone to show them love and attention because their parents have ignored or abused them. And, they meet a man who takes advantage and the cycle starts over with another generation. Until communities become strong advocates for these children, the cycle will continue.
I spoke out about the parents who choose not the feed their kids out of punishment. These parents are 9 chances out of 10, receiving the benefits because of their children. The money they receive is meant to be spent on their children, finding employment and / or supplementing low income. If the parents are using their children to obtain benefits and taking the money, with the sole purpose of buying designer clothes and filling their bellies, while allowing their children to go without ... then, they are misusing using a system and should be reported.
Could the Food for School Group also do something, in conjunction with the after school programs? Perhaps, local grocers, business owners and citizens could donate loafs of bread, meat, cheese, bags of apples, carrot sticks ... I know a lot of the children attend because their parents work until 5 or 6p. However, for those who go home to little or no food, this could help fill the gap between 6p and 8a. And, for all of you who will shout about the parent's responsibility .. Some parents can't or won't take on the responsibility. As a community, we can't allow these children to go hungry. An estimated 25 children are going home hungry ... That's 25 too many, but in other towns & cities there are 25 students per class that are going to a house with little or no food. We can help the estimated 25 in Emporia.
We can shout and yell all day ... but, until the community steps up and provides these kids with healthy role models and good choices and educates parents, the cycle will continue. You don't have to spend money. If you know children, in your neighborhood, who are at-risk become a role model. But, if you are going to raise your voice on this forum, then do something offline too.
January 27, 2011 at 10:19 a.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
fourstars (anonymous) says...
new to emporia=
well said.
fanned & faved
January 27, 2011 at 12:20 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
GreatDayInEmporia (anonymous) says...
Mrs. Walker,
Thank you for your article and dedication to the Food for Students Program. It brings me joy to know that the children and schools of Emporia have found such an advocate in you. Each time I see increasing numbers for students participating in the free and reduced-price lunch program, it saddens me as I imagine weekends, holidays, and summer when that lunch (and/or breakfast) is not available. Children whose parents are choosing between paying rent and buying groceries are not always able to speak for themselves, and they deserve the voice you are giving them.
Poverty, hunger included, seems to be Emporia’s “elephant in the room,” and I hope local support brings encouragement to many families. Along with the tireless work of educators and social workers fighting against food insecurity, perhaps you can help promote involvement and humane discourse within the community. I wish your program continued success.
Respectfully,
Elisabeth Delaney Tholen
January 27, 2011 at 12:26 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
hard_at_work (anonymous) says...
genexer:
Thank you for your comments and support. So many times I feel like I haven’t done the right thing or could be doing more to support my children. I donate to the United Way, my oldest daughter is in Girl Scouts and I have made donations to the food pantries when I have been able to spare something, thinking of all of those less fortunate… however, when you are the less fortunate, it is difficult. Especially in such a judgmental society we have now-a-days; my children, sad as it may be, are already conscious of not having money, luxuries or the ability to always have food or go to the school “sakte-nights.” I overheard my oldest daughter one day say to a friend, “You can stay the night at my house, but you may not get breakfast in the morning.” This was absolutely heart wrenching! And sure, I could get a 2nd job, but I would never see my children then and I’m already missing out on a lot working 2nd shift to support them! So thank you again for the positive thoughts my way instead of the negative thoughts we normally get. I also appreciate your support of our Troops. I have done my duty and stand by our service men and women and have seen many of them suffer, hurt and fail at being able to provide for their families and it is not a joking matter!
January 27, 2011 at 7:29 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
apierich (anonymous) says...
It is always easier to have always had and continue to have than to have not had and work to have or to have had then not have and work back to having. It is unfortunate that those who have been in the situation are the most likely to have the compassion and do something, but that is what happens more often than those who have never been and could never imagine being helping.
There always have been and will be those who abuse the system, no matter how much you educate them. Then there are those who really don't know better and just accept that what they have always known is how it will always be and how it is for a majority of people when that is not the case. The second set of people are the ones that need to be reached.
I personally have been on the rollercoaster of being lower middle to upper lower class throughout my life. There are times that I just want to give up because I do feel so beaten down. I was lucky enough to have parents who put our needs before their or our wants and let us know that, and that is what has kept me going and fighting the feelings of giving up.
My husband was not so lucky. His father was one of those who ran away at the first difficulty of responsability and did everything in his power to continue to shirk it, i.e. only taking jobs under the table or switching jobs once child support enforcement caught up with him and started garnishing his wages. A lot of his friends had the same difficulties growing up. He honestly thought that he was destined to repeat that because it was "genetic or something" but he decided that he wanted to be a father and actually be there for his kids because his was not there for him. He is trying hard but unfortunately those habits learned growing up are hard to break. Sometimes there is great progress only to slide back farther in other areas. I love him dearly but there are times I want to scream at the top of my lungs that he just needs to get with it and be a responsible adult, which really does nothing but makes him stop listening all together.
What I am getting at here is that one class or one intervention is not enough. With the burdens that our current system have and the liability behind a community organization being responsible, the follow up and continued education that would make the biggest difference is not possible at this time. This is one organization that is trying to take care of a symptom of a much larger problem, taking it away will no more remedy the problem than it being the only symptom cared for. We can all only do so much, at least these people are trying to do something. I would give if I could but my situation is too difficult to have that room to do so.
January 27, 2011 at 9:16 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
netloafer (anonymous) says...
I spoke with Carla Fessler a couple of days ago. I think it took a lot of courage for someone within the current public system to speak out like she did. I don't think any of us can sort out how much of the need isn't really legitimate, how much of it is caused by irresponsible behavior, and how much is legitimate. I think that a lot of it is legitimate and the rest needs to be somehow sorted out. Right now the need is there and I think it would behoove us, particularly the blogger community, to help. It's not that you haven't helped before, but I think those who think that the Gazette's bloggers shouldn't have credibility could use some of the stuff on this thread to say, "See. They say they care, but look what happens when a community need arises. Don't give them any credibility."
I think with all that's going on it's time to take the high ground. Don't let your detractors use this as an opportunity to discredit you. Send a donation to the Foundation or even take it by the Gazette. They'll get it to where it needs to be.
January 28, 2011 at 12:46 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
create (anonymous) says...
genexer,
You said you wanted to help. You seemed genuine that's why I suggested writing a check if you couldn't do it any other way. Then you attacked me. Hey, I don't need your disdain. If you don't really want to help, don't. Nobody is holding a gun to your head. Jeez!
January 28, 2011 at 2:57 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
genxer (anonymous) says...
create, I felt you were being snide. Regardless of your intention I should have not responded in that manner and I do apologize.
hard_at_work, don't let anyone make you feel bad. And don't get a second job unless you absolutely have to. You being there for your daughters is something that will stick with them a lot more than anything else could detract.
Love is the most important thing and it sounds like there is no lack of that in your house.
Growing up there were a lot of times looking back that my family did not always have a lot. Supper consisting of bread and gravy (was actually one of my favority meals) was not uncommon in my house. But until I got into second grade and some kids started pointing it out I never knew we didn't have money. :)
Whatever your children are going through right now, trust me, the love of their parent is what they will remember most. All of the other stuff will actually turn into a fond memory and give them a greater sense of pride in what they'll achieve later in life. And most of all they will have you to thank, because even though they didn't always have a lot, their mother was always there for them with love.
January 31, 2011 at 7:51 a.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )
create (anonymous) says...
Thank you, genxer. I appreciate that.
I certainly agree with your post. I too grew up poor, but my sister and I never knew it. What my mother could do with a small piece of meat was a miracle. As it turns out I took that information with me to my marriage to a military man and when we struggled with low pay, I did what my mother did and fed a family on next to nothing.
Even today, my kids ask for those particular meals when they come home for a visit. Magic Goulash has little or no meat and they loved it then as they do now.
You're right about love being the most important thing. I was a stay at home mom until my kids grew up and moved away. Then I went to college. But my kids remember having a mom at home and speak of hot cocoa and warm cookies on cold winter days.
January 31, 2011 at 12:38 p.m. ( permalink | suggest removal )