The spirit of Christmas
John Schlageck
Saturday, December 20, 2008
During this holiday season, let’s not forget the true meaning of Christmas — celebrating the birth of Christ, love, friendship and spending time with our families.
As a youngster I have fond memories of Mom inside our warm home fixing turkey, dressing and all the trimmings. I was outside with my brothers and sisters throwing snowballs, playing “fox and geese” and just being kids.
One thing I’ll never forget about this period of my life are some of my dad and his friend’s favorite sayings. It seems like we always visited more during the holiday season and as children we had the opportunity to hear some of these words of wisdom more than once.
These sayings came from friends, neighbors, brothers, sisters and cousins – folks he’d lived with for years. These stories were steeped in the tradition and history of the great High Plains in northwestern Kansas. They were told by farmers, ranchers, family and friends who’d clawed and scratched out a pretty good living in the tough and sometimes unforgiving flat land where the wind always blows.
Here are just a few — the gems — the ones I’ll remember always:
• Your friends are the measure of your real worth.
• The outside of a horse is good for the inside of a man.
• Why do you think the good Lord gave you two ears and one mouth? So you could listen twice as much as you talk.
• Wait until you get a little older, then you’ll understand.
• If you’re going to train your dog, you have to be smarter than the dog.
• Never be too quick to criticize yourself. It ain’t fair to your friends and relatives who are itchin’ to do it for you.
• If all of your friends climbed up the elevator and jumped off, would you have to too?
• If you haven’t been bucked off a horse, then you’ve never ridden one.
• You can’t listen too much when a friend needs someone to talk to.
• Some things aren’t funny even to your best friend.
• If we have to love our enemies, we have to treat our friends even better.
• A friend is someone who dislikes the same people that you do.
• The only way to have a friend is to be one.
• The best three friends a man can have are his wife, an old dog and ready money.
• A real pal will at least pretend to believe your lies.
• At the end of your life if you have two or three true friends, you’ve lived a good life.
• A true friend is someone who knows that when you’ve made a fool of yourself it generally isn’t permanent.
• When a friend drops by about dinnertime and you ask, “What brings you by here at this time?” You still have to ask him to stay for a bite to eat.
• Good friends are hard to find and harder to lose.
Most of us have a handful of good friends. Be thankful for them. Remember them during this magical time of year. If you can’t stop by to see them, call them on the phone or drop them an e-mail message.
Remember during this holiday season that joy springs from the heart of those dedicated to caring and helping others. The Christmas spirit dwells inside each of us.
Merry Christmas.
• John Schlageck is a leading commentator on agriculture and rural Kansas. Born and raised on a diversified farm in northwestern Kansas, his writing reflects a lifetime of experience, knowledge and passion.